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i was trying to cope with the painful breakup of a relationship that lasted over 20 years. my therapist recommended this book to me and wow. after a lot of crying, i sought out the help of a therapist. our sessions guided me toward healing myself and they allowed me to grieve. everything i was feeling, from the loss of my love to my constant insomnia, to the path toward wellness was validated in the passages of the book and i knew i was not alone in how i felt. i have since recommended it to a friend and would encourage anyone who is feeling the loss of a love to read this book.
The beauty of this book is that it speaks to all of us in the tone of a kind nurturing friend. You could read this entire book in one sitting. But I encourage you not to. Each of us have our own response to this kind of loss - many of us consider it failure. I now keep the book on my nightstand and I randomly read a few pages each night and each morning but now I savor them and hold their messages with me as contemplations throughout the day. One thing about the loss of of a love is that it is a lingering pain.
The left pages are simple bullet points reminding you of a particular element of survival and recovery - "Give yourself time to heal" followed by five bullet points, for example. The first time I read it I did. On every left page there is wisdom and every right page beauty. My personal response to such a thing is panic. Against my better judgment I try to rush a recovery or frantically control what I can not control. On the right side there is a poem relating the subject at left.
This isn't the only book you'll want to read on the subject but it is a very worthwhile one to have around.
Excellent book, it can truly speak your heart and word your thoughts. Thus bringing to the conscious level your pain and fears. I would absolutely recommend this for any broken heart.
I have gifted this little gem to many friends who had a bereavement, and it has helped them as it helped myself. Simply put and cathartic, like an understanding listener in times that it is so hard to express yourself.Give Him Back His Balls
It is one of the first things that comes to my mind when I know of someone being faced with a loss. I was 21. I first read this book when my father died suddenly at the age of 47. It is beautifully written, and lets you know you are not alone in your sorrow and your hurt, and in dealing with the grieving of most any kind of loss. I have read this again and again, when a beloved dog died, when a boyfriend broke up with me. I have recommended it time and time again. The book gratefully reminded me each time, that I would survive,and heal,and love again. It is priceless comfort.
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